Prodigal Daughter and Pregnant
In light of this past weekend’s homily, I decided to write about something near and dear to my heart – The Prodigal Son.
I love this parable. This little parable is like the story of my life.
When I was completely and utterly broken, single and pregnant, contemplating abortion, I finally decided to come home. When I decided to come clean with my brokenness and my unplanned pregnancy, you better believe I thought I was going to be disowned and condemned. I absolutely thought I would be the biggest embarrassment and disappointment to my family and friends. And I really truly believed that was what I deserved. Because it was.
There’s no way I deserved what happened to me. No way.
My family and friends showered me with love. They never once batted an eye of judgment toward me. They didn’t just take me back, they showered me with gifts and assistance that I most definitely did not deserve. I have to say it was one of the most humbling and healing moments in my life.
I remember crying the morning of my baby shower because I was so humbled at what was happening. How could so many women be coming to my house to honor me?? I didn’t get it. It was completely surreal. I can’t describe another moment when I felt Christ’s unconditional love so powerfully.
This is what it must have felt like to be the prodigal son. When he came home, he didn’t even think he was worthy enough to be his father’s slave. But, his father ran to him and showered him with love and gifts and threw him a huge party.
I love it.
This is the definition of grace.
Giving so much love to someone so undeserving.
This type of love is where true conversions and healing happens.
I only wish that everyone knew that this love was waiting for them when they come home.
Unfortunately…I’ve seen people treat those trying to return home very poorly. Especially the single pregnant girl.
I’ve heard many people deny young, single, pregnant girls support because they think “it would encourage premarital sex and make it seem like they thought their situation was ok” or “it would make other girls think it’s ok to just get pregnant, and that they will be saved” or “it will encourage other girls to get pregnant out of wedlock”.
Ok, I’m sorry, but this is absurd.
How does offering genuine, unconditional love encourage sinful behavior?
I want to shout at these people: PREGNANCY IS NOT A SIN!!!
Just because premarital sex happens prior to an unplanned pregnancy does make the pregnancy a sin!
Being pregnant in itself is not sinful! The premarital sex was…but that was a moment in the past! Being pregnant is NOT I repeat NOT a reason to be treated poorly.
She chose LIFE for heaven’s sake!
Isn’t that worth celebrating!!!???
You better believe that if we treat the single pregnant woman poorly we are encouraging every other single pregnant girl to consider abortion because otherwise she will think she won’t be loved.
Let me tell ya, fear of being unloved is the most distressing fear to experience.
I refuse to believe that showering someone “undeserving” with love is somehow “encouraging more sin”.
That is completely contrary to everything Jesus stood for and died for.
Real, authentic, raw, unconditional love has got to be the most impactful, powerful, life-saving, life-changing thing someone can offer.
I experienced this love…and that is why I had the conversion that I did.
That love is the reason my daughter is alive.
This is the love that will save the world.
I’m sure the prodigal son would agree with me.